The Wisdom of No Criticism and Emotional Connection
“When we started our life together, 35 years ago, there weren’t any self-help books on how to have a better relationship. We looked around for people that we could model and we didn’t find very many role models with the kind of relationship we wanted.”
That is how the seed was planted for the Hendricks Institute and all the amazing books that Gay and Katie Hendricks have authored.
The idea of “Conscious Loving” brought Gay and Katie to desires they had for their own relationship. Concepts like:
• Being Emotionally Transparent
• Going “Blame Free” And…
• Eliminating Criticism
All relationship progress, however, starts with the relationship you have with your internal self. Struggling with emotions is something everyone experiences across ages and cultures. As we get older, we lose touch with our body intelligence.
“Civilization takes us, in many ways, away from our natural body intelligence and forces us to focus more on the outside and how our body looks rather than how it’s feeling inside.”
Relationships are an inside job. “You always get the kind of love from the outside that you give to yourself inside.” It is a natural reflection. You can become more aware of this by asking questions like,
“What are my feelings towards myself?”
“How much do I love myself?
“How much am I valuing myself right now?”
But, what do you do when you realize you are not valuing yourself when you realize you are in a fear state?
1. Acknowledge It- make that Mind/Body connection
2. Voice It (with people you are close to, have an intimate relationship with)
3. Create the space to have a good time and heal
“Most people don’t experience 15 minutes of intimacy in their entire lifetime.” ~Eric Berne
Intimacy is hard because we are afraid. Trust is a physical sensation. There are some things you cannot figure out with your mind. If you make the effort towards intimacy, it turns out that you free up creative energy. Freeing yourself from relationship struggles also frees up more space to create. Surround yourself with relationships that inspire you and encourage your creativity. If you are still struggling, you can try a “Fear Melter” exercise http://www.hendricks.com/body-free-resources/fear-melters/
Catch the full episode of Change Maker with Gay Hendricks on
The Wisdom of No Criticism in Relationships, and Body Intelligence for Success
Gay Hendricks, author of 35+ books including bestsellers: The Big Leap and Conscious Loving shares the secrets to his success in marriage, business, and creativity. Learn tips for blasting past fear, building your best marriage, and creating more love and fun in your work.
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