My Secret to My BEST Marriage
Dear Friends,
In my 20’s, I got married, divorced and engaged 3 times. I also had Sage the day after my 25th birthday. At 29, after Sage’s surgeries and the tea company’s first million in revenue, I was engaged to someone I didn’t love but had lost hope that true love could be mine. And then I met Gay and Katie Hendricks. I took a 90 minute course from them at a conference and as they taught, they showed so much adoration (not the sappy, gross, contrived kind 🙂 for one another, and RESPECT for each other in a way I’d never seen a couple be together. Katie would say one of her sentences while Gay would focus lovingly at her and then as Gay spoke, Katie would watch him with so much appreciation in her eyes that I began to cry.
I was amazed. Love could look like that? After 25+ years? I’d never seen anything like it. I rushed out afterward to get their book: Conscious Loving and as I read it, I realized I couldn’t settle for anything less than what they had. I swiftly broke up with my then fiance and packed Sage up and moved. I would be single or have what they modeled, nothing in between.
Soon, Gerard came into my life and we fell in love (it’s all in my book, if you haven’t read it yet!). Marriage with him promised to be amazing, and it was, in moments and then not. We fought, or should I say I fought. I was wounded, angry and had become great at playing the unconscious roles of a victim, and then a hero (here, I know all the answers, and you don’t), and even a villain (meaning I ignored his needs at times to get my way– I know, bad girl). We fought over the same things for a few years. I felt myself in a deja vu cycle but couldn’t figure out how to break the patterns of my pain, and my past. I knew I had to for our marriage to be happy and healthy, but every time we fought, it felt like we would never make it.
And then I enrolled in Katie’s Conscious Loving Essentials course. 3 days of breathing, playing, and doing exercises to help melt fear and old patterns shifted me from entitled (I’m your wife, so you have to…). I was due to fly to Texas and receive a big national award from E-Women’s Network, but then I cancelled and stayed to take 5 more days of class–the Conscious Living Advanced Training. It was the best thing I’ve ever done. This is no sales pitch, I make no money from this, this is a seriously life changing experience I had that made my marriage BETTER, MORE FUN, and we haven’t fought since. Seriously, those days of worry, strain, and feeling like I am alone in a marriage are over. It’s been over a year of respect, appreciation and mindfulness, oh yes and if you’re curious and without sounding crass, the sex spark and experience has gotten more delicious in our new, conscious-loving marriage.
Katie teaches this course all over the world now. And she’s teaching one here in Ojai, CA this month (sorry for the late notice, I’ve been on book tour). What you learn is forever. It’s not like the workshops where you jump in and get all excited and then a month out you have forgotten, this sticks and lasts and makes the necessary changes in YOUR BODY, HEART and MIND.
Sign up here if you’re interested, and know that once you become this conscious in your relationships, you will have exactly what you need to achieve every dream:Â http://www.hendricks.com/trainings/
Sending you all tremendous love,
Zhena
