How to Live in The Realm of Maybe
Are you addicted to certainty?
Do you write stories about what needs to happen in order for you to be ok?
“I’m going to have this job until I retire.” “I’m going to have this amount of money in the bank by the time I’m fifty.” “My child is going to go to this college so they will get a good job and have a good life.”
We hold on to these types of stories, but what happens when things change?
Uncertainty. Anxiety. Worry.
Allison Carmen was well on her way to fulfilling her story as a first-year attorney when the threat of being let go from her job began a downward spiral of fear,
“All of a sudden this whole story, that I had based so much of my life on, had just vanished into thin air. And, I started to worry what’s going to happen next, how will I pay my rent, what are my parents going to think, and I reached a new level of anxiety that I didn’t recover from for a very long time.”
Learn how a story about a horse and a farmer changed Allison’s life in this week’s episode of Change Maker: http://cbsloc.al/1BJZTyT
Allison began to play with the idea of “maybe,” of other possibilities than her predetermined stories. Maybe everything would get better or what if everything is ok as it is…gasp! Maybe!
“When I started to think that way, everything changed. My fear transformed into hope and I was much more open, much more peaceful, much more relaxed.”
A shift into playing with uncertainty can change your life as it did for Allison. You can begin to sit in a larger place and see the potential for the positive, rather than jumping straight to the negative. Hmmm, maybe everything can be good. Contemplate it for a moment.
“Maybe says, I’m available for life.” You’re showing up!
Maybe as a cognitive phase…
The Maybe Philosophy gives you permission to feel what you feel while expanding into other possibilities. You see an opening. You are able to connect and reduce suffering. You learn to understand that life does not come down to a single moment. If one thing happens, you do not need to give up.
Be sure to check out Allison’s The Gift of Maybe in a bookstore near you.
Allison Carmen also blogs at http://www.allisoncarmen.com/
Full interview available on this week’s episode of Change Maker:
Kick Your Addiction to Certainty
As a life coach, business consultant and author, Allison Carmen has developed the simple life philosophy called “Maybe” to help people deal with the uncertainty of life. She has successfully applied the philosophy to help her clients, who range from entrepreneurs and owners of multi-million dollar companies to artists, actors, writers, fashion designers, attorneys, health care workers, parents, nannies and the homeless. Allison has witnessed hundreds of people, regardless of present circumstances, who had the courage to step into the realm of Maybe, improve their lives.
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